Does the father of the
Groom make a speech, and when? If he is unable to do so who would do it for
him?
There really is no definite rule about who can/must give a speech or toast at a
wedding reception or other wedding-related function-- or when.
In general, the first toast at an engagement party is given by the father of the
bride; the first toast at the rehearsal dinner is usually given by the father of
the groom; the first toast at the wedding reception is usually given by
the best man.
Certainly, the father of the groom is a likely person to say a few words of
congratulations at the wedding reception, if it is a very "toast-oriented"
group. Some families and friends toast and speak for ages. But I have been to
receptions, too, where there are no additional toasts or speeches after the best
man's toast. So it really depends.
As for who might give a speech in the father of the groom's stead/honor, that
would depend on the circumstances. A brother of the groom or uncle (or even a
close friend of the groom's parents) might well be a logical person to extend
the father of the groom's good wishes to the couple.
Certainly, too, the mother of the groom would be welcome at most gatherings to
speak either for, or in lieu of, the groom's father.
But if no speech is made from the groom's "side", that isn't necessarily a
problem either. Do what seems natural and logical under the
circumstances.
Best wishes--
Sara Ambarian --Foreverwed.com expert
author of "A Bride's Touch: A Handbook of Wedding Personality and
Inspiration"/
creative consultant/custom bridal designer
mailto:sara@foreverwed.com
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