My parents want to renew their
marriage vows and I need to find out some information on
certain areas of the wedding. First of all what is the
etiquette for renewal of vows as far as the ceremony and
reception goes. Second my sister wants to give my mom a
bridal shower, how do we go about doing it since my mom
has a home with everything in it. Third, how do we word
the invitation because my mom wants to put all our names
on it including her grandchildren. And Finally are there
any websites regarding renewal of vows.
Honoring your parents with a
vow renewal ceremony is a wonderful way to celebrate their
A vow renewal ceremony is
somewhat different from a wedding because the couple is
already married. To find information about planning such
a ceremony and the etiquette involved, visit
www.memorable-events.com/articles.htm then choose the
link for vow renewal ceremony.
Planning a Vow Renewal Ceremony
renewal ceremony is a special way to declare your
continuing commitment to your spouse before family and
friends. The ceremony can occur any time after your
original wedding ceremony. Couples who eloped or had a
destination wedding may choose to renew their vows
shortly after the original wedding at a gathering for
family and friends. Others may choose to renew their vows
on a special anniversary, such as the 10th, 15th,
or 25th. Since the couple is already married,
there are differences between a vow renewal ceremony and a
wedding. Following are some of the differences to
Since the ceremony is symbolic, not legal, a minister
or judge does not need to perform it, nor do you need to
obtain a marriage license. You might choose to ask a
father, grandfather, or special friend to perform the
ceremony, thus making it very personal.
Personalize your vows if you have been married for a
number of years. You might mention the years past and
those in your future together, giving special meaning to
the bride is already married, her father should not
give her in marriage to the groom. He may walk her
down the aisle, however.
The length of time since the original wedding will
dictate what the bride wears. She should not wear a
blusher (a veil over her face), but she may wear a white
dress. if she was recently married, she might wear her
gown and veil again (minus the blusher). However, if
she has been married for several years, a wedding gown
and veil would not be appropriate. Instead, a formal
gown could be worn, or a dress or slacks for a more
include the exchange of rings in the ceremony unless the
bride is receiving a new ring or an anniversary ring.
Couples should not register for gifts or have a bridal
shower unless they were recently married. Most guests
will not bring gifts unless the vow renewal occurs
shortly after the original marriage or on a "milestone"
anniversary, such as the 25th or 50th.
you have children, include them in the ceremony as
bridesmaids, groomsmen, flower girl or ring bearer.
use a vow renewal as an occasion to live out your
fantasies of the dream wedding you didnt have.
Instead, keep it simple and dignified and related to the
length of time you have been married.
display items from the original wedding, if possible.
If you were recently married, you might show the wedding
video and any photos that you have. Those who have been
married for several years might display their wedding
photos, play the original wedding music, or have a baker
re-create your wedding cake. Invite members of the
original wedding party to attend.
renewal ceremony is a wonderful way to reaffirm your
commitment and love for your spouse before family and
friends. The ceremony can strengthen family bonds as you
create new memories together
Your sister should not give
your mother a bridal shower, since she is not a bride.
She might have some other type of party, however, that
would be a fun way for family and close friends to
celebrate. She might call it a "Second Trip to the Altar"
party or something similar. Gifts might include personal
items, like bath products, that can be used up rather than
another thing to store. If your parents are taking a
trip, gifts might relate to what they will need for the
trip - film, sunscreen, travel guides, etc., or guests
might go in together to buy them one nice gift, such as a
new camera or luggage.
Your mother can put all of
your names on the invitation if there aren't too many
names. Otherwise, it would be better to say, "The
children and grandchildren of Joe and Eva Brown invite you
......" Then, if you are giving guests a program at the
vow renewal, the names of all the children (and spouses)
and grandchildren can be listed in the program.
Glenna Tooman, ForeverWed.com