When it comes right down to it, I don't think you and your spouse-to-be are going to *want* to forego the rehearsal dinner. The normal "guests" at this event are your nearest and dearest family and friends. And often (though not always) they have assembled from far and wide on the day of the rehearsal to help you get your actual wedding festivities going.
Most couples I've known and worked with are VERY anxious to spend the evening with the people who attend the rehearsal. It's usually a very special evening, more intimate than the wedding celebration itself, and a good time of anticipation, fellowship, memories and joy.
Maybe the thing you two need to do is look at ways to enjoy the evening with your family and bridal party, but reduce or split costs. No real rule says that you have to take everyone out to a fancy restaurant as many of us envision. (And actually, in "traditional" etiquette the groom's family would pay for this anyway.)
You might host your guests for some simple homemade meal (spaghetti, barbeque, pizza). You might work out a cooperative meal with a friend or family member. You could consider a full-blown potluck, where all the guests bring something to contribute and you all enjoy the evening of fun and fellowship. Many times family and closest friends are **HAPPY** to help with things like this, if you only discuss it with them.
Even going "dutch" on dinner at a favorite restaurant could be an option. A traditional option? Not really. A reasonable one for your circumstances. Yes, it might well be.
So don't be discouraged, and don't discard the whole rehearsal dinner concept because funds are tight. Think and talk it over and bit, and try to come up with an option that suits your situation, your budget, and your relationship with your family and friends.
Very Best wishes to you!
Sara Ambarian
ForeverWed.com Wedding Expert Staff
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