My wedding and reception is at the same location, which is a
recently renovated historical ballroom. Is there anyway I can seat the
guests at the 5' round tables during the ceremony and reception both?
I can understand your concerns, but I have been to weddings
that did this, and it IS workable. It may not be the optimum situation,
but for some locations, it is a logical solution.
When the ceremony and reception are being held in the same place,
available space often does not allow for a separate ceremony and
reception seating. If they cannot both be fit in the single space, the
only other option is to have traditional ceremony seating, then have
tables set up afterwards. This can be a logistical nightmare, since
often there is no logical place to put/send guest while the
"change-over" is made. To me, this is much tackier than having guests
watch the ceremony from their tables. It also leaves you less
opportunity to really decorate the tables as completely as you might if
you did it beforehand. So, unless there is ample room to create both
ceremony and reception areas-- or there is a garden area on the grounds or
some other room appropriate to hold the ceremony-- you may well need to have
the guest watch the ceremony from their tables.
If this ends up being your choice, consider the following in your
planning----
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Where will you enter from? Exit to? Or will you stay in
the ballroom
and get straight to the toasts, etc., once you've been pronounced
husband and wife? If you choose to leave, I have heard couples in this
situation say that it felt a little strange to go in, leave, and come
back again later. However, many couples look forward to a moment alone
between the ceremony and reception. You will need to think this through
with your fiance.
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Where will you position yourselves for the ceremony? In
the center
with the tables all around? At one end of the room, perhaps near the
wedding cake and/or bride/groom's table? Remember that the more
"layers" of tables between each guest and the ceremony, the more
difficult it will be for them to see. If possible, go and sit at some
of the tables and look around you. Bring a couple friends or family and
see how it might all look. Sometimes a circle or half-circle arrangement
of the tables around the ceremony area is the best. Some guests will
see you from the front, some from the back, some from the side-- but
everyone may have a slightly better view than if they have to look to
one end of the room past all the other guests.
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Will guests have enough room to turn their chairs so that they won't
have to look over their shoulders? Most weddings take about 15 minutes
or more, so you'll want guests to be very comfortable. You will also
want it to be very obvious where they will need to turn their attention,
and when... so there's not a lot of bustle and confusion distracting
from the entrance of you and your maids. Or, you might actually set the
chairs that will need to turn so that they are neatly facing the
ceremony area before guests arrive. Just be sure to allow enough
walk-through room between chairs and tables, so guests can easily find
their spot.
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Will there be any obstacles to guests' line-of-sight of the ceremony?
Are there columns in the ballroom? Plants or other decorations?
You
will need to think this through carefully. You will also need to keep
line-of-sight in mind when you are planning your centerpieces and other
decorations. All the guests will want to be able to see you, not a
topiary, candelabra or balloon bouquet. : )
Try to be flexible in your thinking and planning. This kind of
situation does not follow all the normal "rules", but that doesn't mean
you can't work it out to be lovely and gracious. I don't know where
your ballroom is, but I have seen some really WONDERFUL historic
ballrooms which would be well-worth working through the initial
awkwardness of the unusual logistics.
Foreverwed.com expert-- Sara L. Ambarian