I'm having a problem with wording for my
daughters wedding invitations. I am divorced for 20 years. I have kept my
childrens last name. The father, who never paid a dime, is coming to the
wedding. My daughter wants the invitation to read.
Ms. Darcey xxxxx and Mr. Jeff xxxxxxx
Mrs. ?? (deceased) and Mr. ??
invite you to the wedding of
Marni xxxxx and Chris ?
How should this be done. I am divorced
but presently engaged. The boys mother is deceased and the father is
remarried.
From an etiquette point, an invitation is issued
in the names of those who are hosting the wedding (paying part or all of the
expenses). If your ex-husband isn't contributing to the costs of the wedding,
his name doesn't need to be on the invitation unless your daughter really
wants to include him. In that case, the wording that you used, "Ms. Darcey
xxxx and Mr. Jeff xxxxx" would be correct, though Jeffrey would be used
instead of a nickname.
Since the groom's mother is deceased, her name
would not appear on the invitation, but can be included in the wedding
program. If the groom's father is a co-host, either his name, Mr. Steven
Jones, or he and his current wife's name, Mr. & Mrs. Steven Jones, would be
used.
The following wording would be similar to,
"request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their children," then
give the full names of both the bride and groom.
Many couples find that it is less confusing to
issue the invitation in the names of the bride and groom and then say
"together with their parents" rather than listing all of the names. It would
then read, " Miss Marnie Elizabeth xxxx and Mr. Christopher William Jones,
together with their parents, request........"
Listing all of the names when there are several
can make the invitation too long, particularly if reception information is
included on the invitation. Your invitations dealer should be able to sit
down with you and print out samples of how the various wording styles will
look so that you can then determine which looks best.
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