I am helping friends of mine by printing up invitations for their Wedding
Reception (they eloped and are wanting to hold a reception for friends and
family). In the process, the couple asked me if I knew whether it was
appropriate and if so, whether there was a nice way to state that no specific
gifts are needed, but money would be ok? (This is aimed primarily at family
members, I gather)
I wasn't sure if it was appropriate or not to include something in the
invitation to that effect. And if so, I wasn't sure just how it should be
worded.
It is considered a breach of etiquette to mention
gifts, particularly money, in an invitation. In some locations, it
is becoming more acceptable to say "no gifts" and leave it at that. In other
more traditional areas, particularly in the South, it is considered rude to
even say "no gifts."
The best way to convey the couple's preference is
by word of mouth. When you or the bride and groom are asked what they would
like, you can say that they would prefer money, perhaps for a large purchase.
That way, the word will spread to other family members and friends.
Best wishes in your planning.
Glenna Tooman, ForeverWed.com Wedding Consultant