Can my mother wear my color (ivory)? She's afraid it isn't proper. I think it
would be elegant and distinguish her as the mother of the bride.
According to traditional etiquette, your mother is right, generally only
the bride wears white/ivory out of deference to the bride. However, if
it is *your* preference that she wear ivory, I don't see any reason why
she should not. Certainly, in this case, the bride (you) will not feel
that it's a disrespectful or competitive choice, and if it contributes
to the overall look you would like, that is a good reason to do so.
However, I would encourage you, if you and your mother decide she will
wear ivory, to give the mother of the groom that option as well. It
would be a kind and practical gesture in a number of ways. At some
weddings, the mother of the groom does not get much attention, and this
would help her also stand out from other guests. Also, it would be a
simple way to show that her position, in your mind, is important. It
also would help create balance in the portraiture and such.
Their gowns will be quite different in style, most likely, and you can
also plan for their corsages (or other floral pieces) to be different in
some way to help distinguish them, too. Besides, most guests probably
know who the mothers are, or will figure it out quite quickly. As you
said, them dressing in ivory, however, would look lovely and would
likely distinguish them from the other guests-- who likely won't wear
ivory and won't have corsages or other wedding accents.
Best wishes and much happiness to you--
Foreverwed.com expert-- Sara L. Ambarian
author of "A Bride's Touch: A Handbook of Wedding Personality and
Inspiration"/ creative consultant/ custom bridal designer
mailto:sara@www.foreverwed.com
For more wedding information:
http://www.foreverwed.com/~sara
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