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Make your
children a part of the wedding
By Nily Glaser
Congratulations! You are getting
married! Have you decided how, where and when to let your children participate?
It is essential to let children know that they are a most important part of the
new family created by your union.
Following are a few ideas you may wish to consider.
1. Let your children (if they are old enough) be involved in the preparations as
well as the wedding ceremony and reception.
2. Consult with your children about simple things such as colors they like for
your wedding, a favorite flower they may wish you to consider, what color dress
your daughter wants for the occasion? What color tie your son would like to wear
etc... Let them know that you appreciate their contributions.
CEREMONY
1. Are you going to have a unity candle? Instead of a "Unity Candle" why not
make it a "Family Candle". Make your wedding family oriented. Let the kids
walked down the aisle together and light the tapers with or without help from
the grandmas. If you have a personalized candle like the candles at
Candles by Nily have a congratulatory message from them right
inside your candle.
2. When you go shopping for your rings, why not purchase a ring for each of the
children. Right after you have been pronounced husband and wife, invite the kids
to join you and put a ring on each child's finger. Some clergy will be glad to
bless the kids.
3. Another way to incorporate the kids in the ceremony is to ask the officiant
to sign a decorative family license. You may prepare it in advance and have it
ready for a signature. You must discuss this with the officiant ahead of time
and get an approval.
4. And, why not include your children in your vows?
5. A flower girl and a ring bearer are also wonderful ways to have your children
as a part of the ceremony.
6. Have you considered having your children walk you or walk with you down the
aisle?
In conclusion, put in as many loving touches as possible. Let the kids know that
they belong in this new union.
RECEPTION
Include your kids in the reception. Ask them:
1. To ask each guest to sign the guest book.
2. To make sure each place setting has a wedding favor.
3. To seat the guests.
4. To make sure that the gifts table is well organized.
Also:
1. Make a toast for the children immediately after the toast for the bride and
groom.
2. Follow the first dance that is reserved for the bride and groom with a dance
reserved for mom and dad and the children.
3. If you have a candle lighting ceremony at your reception, don't forget to
invite the kids to light one of the candles.
4. When you thank your bridal party, don't forget to thank the kids for their
help and tell them how important they are and how proud they have made you.
Copyrights © 2003 All Rights Reserved Nily
Glaser, A-wedding Day and Gan Publishing Nily Glaser is the founder of
A-wedding Day, http://www.a-weddingday.com a very popular Wedding Resource
and Information Center. She is also the publisher of the free A-wedding Day
newsletter. |
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