I am looking for the traditional Lutheran wedding vow that includes the
words, love honor and obey. Can you send me this format if you can find it.
Have you talked to your local Lutheran minister about this?
To my knowledge, the vow you are referring to is the same text from the
Book of Common Prayer that most couples still use, with only the
substitution of the word "cherish" for "obey". However, I do not have
much experience with the Lutheran church.
My husband and I actually talked to the minister who married us about
using "obey" instead, and he declined. He also said that he thought
"cherish" was more appropriate for us as a couple. But I was interested
that he was resistant to using the other wording. You will need to
discuss this with your minister to see what he suggests.
At any rate, I will attach below a copy of the standard Common Prayer
service for your reference.
Dearly beloved, we are gathered here today in the sight of God, and in
the face of this company, to join together this Man and this Woman in
holy Matrimony which is an honorable estate, instituted of God....
...wilt thou have this Woman to be thy wedded wife, to live together
after God’s holy ordinance? Wilt thou love her, comfort her, honor and
keep her in sickness and in health; and forsaking all others, keep thee
only unto her for as long as ye both shall live?...
...I ...take thee...to be my lawfully wedded Wife, to have and to hold
from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in
sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part,
according to God’s holy ordinance; and thereto I pledge thee my troth....
...With this ring I thee wed; In the name of the Father, and to the Son,
and of the Holy Spirit. Amen....
Very best wishes to you--
Foreverwed.com expert-- Sara L. Ambarian
author of "A Bride's Touch: A Handbook of Wedding Personality and
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