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More than one Maid of Honor?

I have two questions for my upcoming wedding.

1. Can I have more than one maid of honor? I have two close friends and I don't want to hurt anyone's feeling.
2. Is there a different title for your maid of honor if she is married?

The title for a married "maid of honor" is "matron of honor", and using these two titles is a way that many brides are able to honor two close friends relatively equally.

The main distinctions of the maid/matron of honor are that she:

~ stands next to you
~ she helps you with your bouquet and train during the ceremony (because she's closest to you at the altar)
~ sometimes, she wears a different gown
~ sometimes, she holds a bigger/different bouquet
~ signs the marriage license
~ sometimes prepares a speech/toast for the reception

Normally the honor attendants are honored *compared* to other attendants. If you have only these two bridesmaids, you aren't dressing the matrons differently or placing them in honor "above" anyone else.
Either way, you seem to want to honor these friends equally, and that's understandable.

The titles don't mean *all* that much one way or another. Basically they only come up on the program and during introductions at the reception, if you will have them.

You will need to decide, however, who will sign the license and who will stand closest to you. If you make it clear to both women that you consider them equal in your wedding, then I think you can easily split the duties and honors of the maid's/matron's job between the two of them. For example, if one friend stands nearest you in the wedding, perhaps the other could sit nearest to you at the reception, or some arrangement like that.

Don't let the titles worry you too much; just look for a practical way to divide the duties and enjoy both of these people who are dear to you. If I can be of any further help, feel free to contact me directly.

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