We live in Jerusalem and will be, G-d willing, marrying off two
sons in the states this summer. Needless to say there are numerous challenges
with this, one of which is schedules.
Regarding the bride & groom not seeing each other the week
prior to the wedding: Potentially one of my sons will be getting married on
Monday, August 26, and his brother will be married on Sunday, Sept. 1. Can the
second bride attend the first wedding, seeing as this would fall within the
seven day 'blackout' period?
The Bride and groom not seeing one another a
week before the wedding is a custom which should be honored if
possible.
One reason offered for this custom is to ensure
that no petty argument erupt during what is potentially a
stressful period.
Another reason: The seven-day separation
enhances the bride and groom's endearment towards one another.
I asked two of Jerusalem's noted Poskim about
your situation. Under the circumstances, your son's fiancee may
attend the wedding, but she and her groom should avoid socializing
with each other. Mazel Tov!
Sources:
- See Rema Shulchan Aruch Even Haezer 55:1 See
Shulchan Aruch Yoreh Deah 192:1
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