| Love and
death are the two most puzzling events I have ever attempted to understand. I never truly
even fathomed such thoughts until I began planning my wedding. Chris and I were friends before we
dated, so he was naturally there for me during my grandmother's illness, and ultimately,
her death. It was an extremely difficult time for my family and me, because we were all
very close to her. She suffered tremendously in the last few days of her life and it
pained us horribly to see her in such agony. Chris would come to the house almost daily
just to check on me or lend a shoulder if I needed to cry. Our romantic feelings bloomed
just a few weeks after Grandmother passed away. She had always said I would find the
"perfect one" and she just couldn't wait to meet him.
The realizations that
Grandmother was gone and that Chris was probably my future husband seemed to blur together
throughout the month of December. Grandmother had so badly wanted to see me married. And
finally, I had found him. Tall and attractive, a great smile, a good Christian and strong
leaderÑjust a few weeks too late for he and my Grandmother to be introduced to each
other.
Not long after Chris and I
were engaged, I began my search for that "perfect dress." While trying on gowns
in a bridal boutique, I had a flashback of Grandmother. It was a memory of a time when I
was still a child, around 11 or 12 years old.
I remembered sneaking into
Grandmother's closet and finding my mother's wedding gown tucked safely in a garment bag.
Carefully I took it out and, without hesitation, slipped it on with ease. I buttoned
myself into it, all 25 buttons down the back. I took out my pigtails and brushed my long,
blond hair. That handmade veil was much too elegant for my silly braids! I stared at my
reflection in the mirror, trying to imagine myself ten years older. My thoughts wandered.
"What will I look like |